In order to do this though, I became something of a social pariah. I went to work, I went to yoga, I went to Pilates, I hung out with myself and Ari-and I had no real issues sticking to my cleanse. In the midst of my body high I felt a little lonely and decided that as my cleanse ended I was going to recommit to my social circle, meet new people, and by god I was going to date. Do you know what happens when you're socializing with people in their late twenties and early thirties? You stay up late, you end up having lots of drinks ordered for you-which you drink so as not to be a lame ass, and you find indulgences smothered in cheese become the norm and the sexy jeans you were parading around in smugly that helped you meet new people no longer fit.
My sister and common sense parroted that I needed to be more moderate.
You know what? I suck at moderation. SUCK. I'm too much of a perfectionist to quite literally work "cheats" into a plan, and to be honest once I have a cheat I usually can't stop until its gone (says the empty quart of ice cream in the bottom of my trash can). I want things to be "right" and I will work my ass off to get them there. When I was unhappy at work I sulked for awhile (albeit epically), then got off my ass and lobbied hard for a new role and a new manager. After about a year of not dating anyone in Austin, I acquiesced to several requests and got on a dating site with an open mind telling myself the worse that would happen is I would say "No thanks." I don't do things half way-I do full stops, consider the situation for awhile, and then go all in.
Its how I work.
I read an article on Gretchen Rubin's (author of the Happiness Project) website commenting that for her abstinence is easier than moderation-and it struck a chord. Yes! Abstinence vs. Moderation-there are tons of us out there preferring to go all in rather then gently inching into the cold water.
That said, I elected to sign up for a Teacher Training Immersion at CorePower Yoga, the reasoning in a post to follow. I am about to find out that the opposite of moderation is. 12 hours of classroom time and 5-7 hours of practice (actual yoga classes) for the next 8 weeks coupled with a cleanse. That's almost 20 hours of yoga a week for 2 months. Even as someone who loves going all in-I'm completely daunted and also completely accepting that for me, this is how I lean and learn into my passions.
Fare thee well moderation, I'll see you on the other sid